He's come in again really angry that someone has been in his office messing up his Invoice pile. Tried to blame it on me of course and shout about it. He gets stressed and that it its world war three. I don t bother rising to it no more, he can stress out on his own all he likes. It's funny to hear what he really thinks of my though. Well so today he he s not happy and im not suppose to be happy. But i am happy and that apart from little man thats all I care about. My friend said when does a marrieg get bad, and how long does one have to put up with shit. Well I say if evryday is a bad day then its bad.
So far for two days in a row now he has put me down and said i ought to move out so he sobvioulsy not happy with the things the way they are so he should move out if he feels like that all the time. Its no goo dhim wallowing in miserableness. I also think i should be cutiing back on my out goings being as things are getting bad out there in the housing market. Weve three cars for god sakes and who needs three i really don t know.
Thinking about it i think hubby is actually getting annoyed with me being happy and not doing stuff for him or anything around the house, as he puts it, but im only doing what he does aorund the house, and thats nothing. Its very scarey thogh when he threatens me too. He does it in a round about way though , he says that men get people to knock off there spouses so they don t get any monay if they want a divorce. It s not very nicewhen he says that or the fact that hewould break my legs or even that i m to get a flat in the town and he and Harvey will live here. He doesn t really enjoy our company around here or do little things togther as a family. I don t like his stuff either itsall boy toys stuff, fast bikes, cars and areoplanes. Well i suppose most mn are like that. But i think deep down he wants us to do things together and he s frustrated by my unwillingness to do stuff like i use as i ve not been well. As for the threats i tlk to my friends about them and see what they say. Its indirect manipluation, but i just laugh at him and take no notice Well i ve got that off my chest and i m actually looking for a club to join, hubby can be miserable on his own hey, I like the idea of doing tia chi at the local Village Hall when my stomach goes down anyway.
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- 2008-06-02 @ 23:57:14

WorryBoots
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Oh hun no one, and I mean NO ONE, EVER, deserves to be threatened like that by their other half. You've really got to get yourself out of that situation one way or another. Don't just laugh it off, wait for a time when he's not so stressed and tell him you didn't like his behaviour. The more you let him get away with it, the more he will do it. Try and arrange for some time when you can be away from the work situation as a family and do something you would all enjoy, even something small like going to see a movie or a walk to a park, anything that you would feel comfortable with without being panicky.
Good on you for not letting his behaviour get you down but really you have to think about whether staying with him is really the best thing for your health and anxiety. And definitely talk to your counsellor about it.
Take care xx